It's been quite a while since I last posted. Mostly, because life was crazy and then it was wasn't. We finished the adoption approval process in May which is also when we sold our house and moved in with my husband's mother. It's been almost 12 weeks and we are still living with her. Because we were going to be "homeless" for almost 3 months, our wonderful adoption agency agreed to only show our profile to women who were due after Aug 31 (the date we move in to our new home).
The two months prior to being approved and put on the "waiting adoptive families" list, we were again just waiting (and selling a home, packing, adjusting to Rocky's new job/schedule and raising a now two year old!). We had turned all our documents in, completely our home study and, with the help of Latetia Vernelson, had created our "profile" which is basically a book that birthmothers will look at to determine who will adopt their child. No big deal.
Anywho, so we finished all of that and then waited 8+ weeks. Once we got approved, we broke the news that were about to be homeless. Lest I forget to give God credit for his kindness and guidance, let me tell you about this little phase...So, once I broke the news that we'd be living with my MIL for 11 or 12 weeks, our social worker said we had two options. We could A) get my MIL, her home and her dog approved and thus keep our profile active or B) take our profile off the active list until we were settled in our new home in 3 months. Knowing it would take a couple months to get my MIL and her home approved, that seemed pointless (plus, the thought of getting a new born while living in someone else's home seemed like a too much for me and my capacity for stress. However, option B seemed devastating to me...as if we'd done so much and got approved so quickly only to be put on hold for 3 months. I knew if our profile was on hold until September (when we would be settled in the new home) then we wouldn't actually have a child until December at the earliest.
Now, before you shame me, I realize a couple months is no big deal in the big scheme of things. BUT, I'd had my mind and heart and prayers set on getting a baby mid-fall. Since late winter/early spring, I had felt like the Lord was leading me to believe and pray and hope for a fall baby arrival so these two options just seemed like a big, "What is going on? Was I totally off? Are we even supposed to adopt?"
So, I sent a bold email to our social worker asking if it was all possible to keep our profile active but to only show it to women who were due in September or later. I prayed God would give us a yes on this as another confirmation. I got a response a couple (long) days later saying YES we could do that. My sweet social worker even thanked me for having that idea! It really felt like God was indeed leading this whole thing, after all.
Since that time, we've been chilling (in regards to the adoption, at least). Knowing we couldn't get a baby until after our move into our new home, we could focus on the move and building the new home and just mentally "shelve" the adoption.
So, that's what we've been doing...building a house and living at Grammy's and not stressing about our profile, if it was being shown or if we'd get a call about a baby.
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